Message to My Younger Self

There was a time when I genuinely believed that the age I am now was old.
Not in a disrespectful way.

Just in that childlike way you do when you can’t quite imagine being “that old.”

I also thought that women of this age didn’t second guess themselves that they woke up each morning entirely sure of who they are and what they’re doing.

And yet, here I am…

I still find myself occasionally overthinking a conversation from earlier in the week.
I still find myself wondering about my place in this world and what the real purpose of it all is.
I still find myself questioning my routines and promising myself that tomorrow I will make those beneficial changes.

And as I sit here now, thinking about the years gone by, I start to wonder if we ever really find the answers to all of the questions we might have…

I remember being a teenager and, as most teenagers do, believing that I already knew what life was all about, that I had it all figured out. I had a plan, and that was exactly how my life was going to evolve.

How wrong was I!

As I sit here now at 50, I can honestly say it really did not go to plan!

So, these days, I try not to plan so much anymore. I try to allow life to evolve in its own way and in its own time. I’ve also learned that we really don’t have much control over most things, only really over ourselves, and how we act, and respond to life, and its experiences.

So, if I could go back and give a message to my younger self, it would be this…

• Don’t be so hard on yourself.
• Trust yourself more.
• You don’t have to have it all figured out.
• The plan will change, but that doesn’t mean you’ve failed.

Life is kinder when you allow it to unfold instead of trying to control every outcome. Trying to control everything can lead to disappointment, because so much of it is never yours to control in the first place.

Don’t expect others to be who you want or need them to be, that can lead to heartache, instead, try to accept that we’re all different, and evolving in our own way and time.

Focus on how you respond, and on the choices only you can make. And trust that you are exactly where you’re meant to be, even when life doesn’t feel like it.

You may still have questions at 50, or even 60 and beyond. That doesn’t mean you’re lost. It simply means you are still growing.

So, keep going, keep growing, and trust your journey, maybe one day it will all make sense.

With warmth, love and light 

Liz Xx